Aug finale - BBQ at labrador park

the finale in aug was the bbq we have had last nite...this was to celebrate yew yew,, my nehphew going to the army next month...

mum was with us the whole nite... think she enjoyed herself and this was her first time that stayed up so late with us....

Post birthdae SURPRISE :D

guess wat !! today, i rec a package from my maple friends (become real friends now, hehe)... a lovely foto frame and card.. really a surprise to me :D i love the frame, cos i love to collect beautiful and cute foto frames... mi foto freak actually, thats why....

and see the OTO sliming belt... the teens and sisters kup together and buy me this... they say, while i am mapling.. i can use that, hope to shake my FATS out whahahah.. ya.. better have lor.. cos, after losing 5 kilos..i cant go down anymore without exercise... :K... i let u know if this is really work !!. i give myself one month to shake this .. kekeke

and lastly,, not to forget the red lipstick.. so seductive..... :D

another birthday dinner

this evening, another birthday celebration for me and my elder BIL ^.^ we went this sakae sushi at trade hub... very nice and cozi japanese style room we have for the 12 of us..... price is reasonably and we have a good time there..... and of course.. some fotos to remember this day .... thank God for all these blessings....

celebrating with loved ones and good friends

wow,,wat a gathering i have for my birthdae today,, my 3rd and 4th sis came also...,, with cell members, my ex BIL and his son too.. ....

indeed.. a good and satisfying meal is none other than to have it with good gathering with my love ones around and my friends... .. and then follow by a good red wine.... hmmmmmm thats life in heaven...

guess, i drank too much, while writing this, i actualy felt a little tipsy....hahahah... but i am really happy... indeed, happiness is not you depend on other one to give.....but to find it within yourself...

simple gathering, simple meal with love ones... tats it,, >> simply happiness.....
thank God for all these......

Died at Mong last nite

my ah gal say me.... kiang tio ho, mai gey kiang.. i go Mong last nite, and died immediately.. lost 10% exp.. sian arrrghhhh

going church with mum

very excited indeed, the very first time, going church with mum..
as we worhsipped God together, i really thank God for his beautiful work....

i must confess, sometimes, i angry with God .. He seem to do nothing for the wrong doing one who go free and happily ever after..., leaving a mess for me to clear... .. but on the other hand, God bless me so much so much in such a way....tats my mum's salvation is done and i believe more will come to the Lord ... thats the chan sisters....

i resigned to the fate that nothing is fair in this world..sometimes, in God's world, you cannot find fairness too... but wonderful work from God .. cannot be denied... and the God we believe, is full of compassion....

mum's 80th birthdae ....

mum was just in time to disccharge from hospital to celebrate her 80th birthdae... we took her to this guilin restuarant for dim sum and chinese dishes.... she was indeed very happy.....

and i was too.... really thankful to God for watching over her.. and during this last part of journey on earth, she has received the best gift from God....

looking forward to bring her to Grace1 this saturday... my third sister is also coming with us too.... i am so so so glad...... tears want to flow liaooooo.......

Bday.. around the corner

my 46th birthday around the corner... guess what !!
my young sister say she will do a big one for me when i am 50th...
thats bring me to discotheque... and boogie all nite...to mark my half centurian day...

i ask why until 50th!!! i wan it NOW !!! she told me there are two reasons for it...
firstly, i am the next one on the line of 50th...(after my elder sis, she is 61 this year)... secondly..most of our children passed 18th by the time i am 50th... so
all can go together...

wow .. wat a planning!! but 4 more years.. very long for me leh!!

anyway..i have already started celebrating.. kbox all nite until to 3am this morning...... ^.^

arrggghhh ...going back to cell group soon.....

hmmm... agree to go back to macpherson cell mid of this month..
but i must admit that i am getting a little ......... :K

i wan to spend more time with my kids, my sisters, my mother..and my frds.. both visual and real world.....

friday... thats my movie and drinking nites with frds... honestly, i sure to bon tang one ..... pse forgive me cell leader...... or join me in movies..
^.^ :D:D:D:D

my mum's salvation is done !! halleluyah !!!

look at this lovely key chain that my mum got from Grace Assembly....
and she told me she wan to accept Christ as her personal savior today...

though she suffered badly from dementia.. but i still dont wan to take it lightly,, i prayed for her immediately.. and my dear young sister video taped it...

however, my sinner prayer is really rough in mandarin..but bottom line is, she say YES !!.....

Praise God for all his works....

last dae in mcnair road...

We have a a carnival today in the church.....this is to mark the last day that in this place.. Next month, we are moving to a new place at Paya lebar.. well, its rather far for me... sighhhh...

nevertheless, really have had a good time with friends there..i took a couple of nice fotos.... see, thats Rui, my god son... still remember vividly, that when we were very new in this church..he and timmy immed became good buddies..and one night, he said he wants to follow me home... i said,, Yes, you can..unless you call me Godma ... that it is... i am his Godma ...

really need to thank God that He provide such a good buddy to timmy and accompany us through these years

100 folds blessings... very interesting....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4xHeRiwgaUc&feature=related

i found this my favourite asia one forum.... and it is quite interesting... (bear with it.. it takes 37mins to finish)..

it is not that i against prosperity or i dun wan to be prosperous.. however, when one preach that you give this $$ much and will receive $$ much more or many folds in return... then, deep inside my bones, there is something wrong with the preaching....

i was once loved to read a female author who writes very good books...but once i see her preach on the tv.. i immediately sensed soemthing is not quite right... i cannot get pass myself and concur with what she said...

i have since dumped her books .......

damn siannnnn

mum's dementia getting worse each day.... especially after she knew about
her 'ching gay' passed away..

lately she has been very suspicious over every little thing.. scolding us on the phone that we want to harm her, take away her things.. especially after her money...

at the age of 80.. should be a leading a peacful and happy life with all her daughters and grand children around her... but it dont seems to be the case...

i dont think i am coping well with her.. knowing that she is sick,, sometimes, i still raised my voice to her.. after that i felt very bad again... really dont know how to handle her...

and looking her cursing and swearing each of us ...... my heart very painful...
she is going to live in hatred until she hand over the i/c.........

爱一人

i rec'd this from a buddy...and i like this very much although it makes me tears a little... a little sad... :"(

爱一人

如果你不爱一个人,
请放手.
好让别人有机会爱她.

如果你爱的人放弃了你,
请放开自己,
好让自己有机会爱别人.

有的东西你再喜欢也不会属于你的,
有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃的.

人生中有许多种 .
但别让自己为一种伤害.
有些缘分是注定要失去的,
有些缘分是永远都不会有好结果的,

爱一个人不一定要拥有,
但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱她.
男人哭了是因为他真的爱了.
女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了.

如果真诚是一种伤害,
我选择谎言;
如果谎言一种伤害,
我选择沉默;
如果沉默是一种伤害,
我选择离开.

如果失去是苦，
你怕不怕付出 ,
如果迷乱是苦，
你会不会选择结束,
如果追求是苦，
你会不会选择执迷不悟 ,

如果分离是苦，
你要向谁倾诉,
好多事情都是后来才看清楚,
好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦!!!!

meeting God during lunch......

no lunch kaki today.. so i walk around..and aimlessly walk into this Mount zion bookshop.. cant remember what i see.. i saw this 3 lines :-
glad in hope.. quiet in trouble.. and pray all the time.. Romans 12:12..

its verse 1212 ,, so easy to remember.. so back office, i go to the bible gate way to see what exactly are these verses... I search all the translations, it did not exactly match the above lines, but almost the same....

suddenly, my eyes are filled with tears... i feel God's presence so strong.... its seems He is talking to me ... lately..i cursed so much on someone,, and you know who this person is.... right now.. the words are staring at me..i feel so bad and ashame.... indeed... i should not have and will not do it again....

if i read further from verse 12 to verse 19..... tats what God telling me.. LEAVE IT TO HIM !!!! AMEN !!


12 When you hope, be joyful. When you suffer, be patient. When you pray, be faithful. 13 Share with God's people who are in need. Welcome others into your homes.

14 Bless those who hurt you. Bless them, and do not call down curses on them. 15 Be joyful with those who are joyful. Be sad with those who are sad. 16 Agree with each other. Don't be proud. Be willing to be a friend of people who aren't considered important. Don't think that you are better than others.

17 Don't pay back evil with evil. Be careful to do what everyone thinks is right. 18 If possible, live in peace with everyone. Do that as much as you can.

19 My friends, don't try to get even. Leave room for God to show his anger. It is written, "I am the One who judges people. I will pay them back,"—(Deuteronomy 32:35) says the Lord. 20 Do just the opposite. Scripture says,
"If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat.
If they are thirsty, give them something to drink.
By doing those things, you will pile up burning coals on their heads." —(Proverbs 25:21,22)

21 Don't let evil overcome you. Overcome evil by doing good.

life is unpredictable and vulnerable......

well.. not raally a good year its seems for 2009
i have been attended a few wakes already....

tonight, going to attend another one.... She is my sister's mother in law... we use to go genting together for a few times...

She was ill for 3 wks,,,and by the time she hospitalised, already too late.. the cancerous cell vastly spreaded to other parts of the organs.. On a life support for the past week.. her children will beside her round the clock..... we visited her last sunday and she knew who we were.. can even tell us, she was not able to see us..

turn around less than one month, we lost her... on the other hand, she suffered less ... not a bad thing afterall... :"(
gonna to miss her ... especially to genting...

life is so unpredictable and vulnerable....

Meeting for the 1st time in 30 years ! KSTS 2E1

indeed, i have had a wonderful time yesterday meeting with my sec2 gals...
some of the gals have not even met after we left school..
So, can you imagine the excitment of meeting one another for the 1st time in 30 years.. !!!

is God's grace....

Lunch time, i bumped into a old friend that i have lost contacted... Both of us were so excited as we held our hands tightly.... We are in the same ship, thats both are single mother raising our kids single-handedly......

As we are sharing our growing pain and joy of our kids...we cannot thank God enough, it is truly God's grace and mercy to provide us everything that we needed.... Indeed, looking back on those years, cant imagine how we went through the difficult moments... If its not GOD, we were both long gone.........

Psalm 68:5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling

for the 1st time.......... i start to ...

hmmmmm for the very 1st time.. i start to like KL...
thou.. the robbery is rampant there, but i think i start to like
the food and the shopping...

KL colleagues always so hospitable... they took me to this restoran
at Jalan Alor... the fried hokkien mee with dark dark soya sauce..
damn good lor... very shiok...

and i tea house i went today.. i just love the ambience...
very chinese tables and chairs, ming dynasty kinda of porcelain utensils... and the chinese bamboo deco..with bird cages hanging around you(but without birds inside :K).... and while you savouring the piping hot dim sum... i just feel myself back into those ancient swordsmen times... just that i wear modern cloths wahahaha....

i will be back there again... KL..love the food.. really...
OMG!!!! i forgot i am on a diet programme AWWWWwwwwwwwwww :"( HOW HOW HOW !!!!

timmy's new toy.....

As promised, timmy got his new toy if he got into top 3 in class...
he is 2nd in class this semester.... he is really muscially inclined, and plays it well upon learning from the internet... this is one GOOD genes he need to keep !!

Finally... it paid off after 5 mths of discipline...

finally..the mid year exams results were out...

And Timmy did very well.. he score 9 points L1R4 ..
PoA got 86 marks..that's distinction right !!! THANKS to the tuition centre, and the teacher Mr Koh. This is a extreme make over.

Mr Koh has not only helped Timmy to turn around his marks.. and also, knowing that he is of a single parent home, he actually helped tim on other things..like behaviour, cleanliness and attitudes..... Though timmy has achieved what is targeted this half year, i believe he can still do better...

In fact, he has already made a goal to score better marks in this year end exams.....

5 months of burning off Saturday and Sunday.. paid off finally !! Of course the money i spent on the tuition was also not wasted...And here, not to forget to thank God for His provisions.. Without HIM, nothing can be done !!

i have missed Mother's day, but nvr short change :D

Finally i am back from Delhi. Tired, but a fruitful trip in meeting up with the development team there....

And a present surprise when i got home, a little card and present on my desk from my kids to wish me Happy Mother's day... Yea,, i have missed it over last weekend..... They got me a headphone for my mp3 which i always wanted. And it is in my favourite color - purple....

i always think.. if i have not been a single mum, i wonder how the kids will be growing up in a home, with a dad always out flirting and with excuses for not bringing money back and a mum always crying at home...

Indeed, i thank God for what is right now, and i trust God, He will never short change me....

Good intentions...but we are one of a kind

ah gal work 11am-10pm tonite..before she set up, i just reminded her to be alert at all times... especailly when coming home..

this reminded me that one of my good buddy suggested to get ah boy to wait for her downstairs while she returning from home... Well, i understand her good intentions...but we are one of a kind....

we are not those normal family, who has a husband or a father concern enough to go down stairs to pick up the wife or daughter on those late nites return.. . we just dont have this kind of privilege, and we must learn to live up with our conditions....we are on our own, very much alone.......

Though is a good suggestion to get ah boy to pick up her, but how many times, how many nites he can do it... so we decided to have a small family discussion over this.... and we all agreed one need to be alert and careful when we are back alone... and we must learn to take care ourselves at all times, and in all situations....

We must also believe there is a pair of invisiable eyes that watching over us.. but we have to do our part to protect ourselves first..
for gals, not to wear too prevailing... and boys not to be flashy with his toys. >> handphone, ipod etc...

well, i apply these when i travel alone durinng my assignment.. anyone to protect me , to pick up now and then.. NO ONE!! NONE !! I AM ALL ALONE !!! just have to trust God to protect.... so are my kids... they are not normal kids..... they are one of a kind that grow up much more stronger and versatile compare to those in normal happy family kinda.....

Hidden fear is gone .... at least for now

As my kids grown up... i hv a fear inside me.. it was what happen if the biological father come back and haunt them for money... i got ridden on enough, and i dont want my kids follows my footsteps....

Recent event has brought me to a point to tell my kids what had happened and also teach them how to handle the situation
my gal is a kind and she is a sentimental person.... however, sonny is not so.. he gave me a stern note that he will not allow this happen and will at all times, to protect the sister.... Suddenly.. i just feel that my son has grown up..and he is taking up role of a man, to protect his household... i am very glad and relieved...

yes, my kids have indeed grown up.., sensible and mature..
my greatest fear is over, at least for now....thank God for his mercy and grace... what happen next, no one knows really.. but i want to trust God that He will put things right in His time... even though what our flesh eyes sees is so unfair and unjustice to all of us...

happy CNY 2009 - 又过新年

因着神的爱和包容, 我们才可以喜乐在一起.

Its Christmas time again....

汤圆, 吃了有缘有份 ^.^

汤圆 is made of glutinous flour with a little stuffed ingredients in the centre.. like red bean paste and sesame paste.. i love the sesame, it gives out a strong taste and aroma...

there was this saying... 汤圆, 汤圆, 吃了有缘有份.. meaning, after eating this, you will be have a good relationship with others...

i have made a pot of this 汤圆 for my friends coming over for Christmas' eve dinner tonight ...... ^.^

Retribution ....抱应

Is there retribution in our christian faith? Thats 抱应 !!

I guess not right, because our God is a God of LOVE and full of mercy.

Even if a person kills, steals, done so much wrongs and ruined the lives of others... there is no retribution for him if he believes in God, am i right?

Temptation and discipline

With two lonely hearts in a foreign land, the temptation of lust is so prevalent...

But i thank God for i am sober enough and ran away from it. Knowing i cannot make the mistake i have made twenty-eight years ago that led marriage to be a obligation instead of love... And sure enough, after two decades, finally it screwed up.... and two innocent lives ended in the name of a 'broken home' in the society....

However, i still need to thank God for all that had happened.. For He disciplined me and provided the discernment for all things... especially when i am on the road, where the temptation of being folly is right in front of your door steps......

I pray that God watch and make me strong, trusting Him in all things, and the scar in my life will continue to tell me not to repeat the mistake i have done......

And here, the words in Hebrews 12:10-13 ....

"He disciplines us for our good, that we may share His holiness. All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. Therefore strengthen the hands that are weak and the knees that are feeble, and make straight paths for your feet, so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed"

Lord, thank you for You have strengthened me much with these words..... Amen

Life is a preparation for eternity.

The take over come with a new name, new department and a new boss.. These few months, i have seen a lot of politics going on in the working place. Everyone is trying to protect his job scope and rice bowl in that sense.... People come out from nowhere just want to know what the hell we are doing and want to get involve too..... All these things really making me mentally exhausted....

But today, i come to read about this written by Rick Warren:
When you fully comprehend that there is more to life than just here and now, and you realise that life is just preparation for eternity, you will begin to live differently. You will start living in light of eternity, and that will color how you handle every relationship, task and circumstance.

Suddenly, i just feel so light. Light in the sense that the author reminded me what am i here for. Yes, life is a preparation for eternity that God has already made HIs plans long long ago....

I just feel that everything will be alright, while the politicalling still going on and i am sure that will stay... i just know its going to be alright. God is watching how i will handle all tasks coming forth and He is there to help me....

Dear Lord,
I thank you this morning, You have given me your assurance that You are there no matter what is going on around me. I am weak, tired, mentally exhausted in this office. But i am sure i am still here for a purpose. A purpose doing Your will in all the things that in my hands. Lord, i ask for Your strength and wisdom this morning to help me in all the tasks that forth coming....And Lord, i thank you for the eternity that You have done for us............. Amen

Something about Faith

Faith is a deep dark hole. There is no bottom. You can only go deeper and found yourself nowhere.... or go back where u have started.. There is no resting point for the path of faith...

Timmy's 15th birthday

Yesterday was timmy's 15th birthdae... We celebrated his birthdae at home as this birthday was a special one.... It was the lunar date met up with the English calendar date..

Tim is now the tallest guy at home.. At a present height of 1.63m, is not good enough for him, he is targetting a 1.7m.. I was told that this was the ideal height for a man.. Hopefully by playing more basketballs will make him taller..

As he grows, he resembles so much of his father in many ways.. I thank God, though in a fatherless home, he grows up without any femininity.... This was once a concern for me, but surely now it was over.....

Special 'hong baos'

Look at these 'hong baos'!! They were from val and tim over the last three years....
i just could not take my eyes off from this photo...

Indeed, many good things are worth to keep despite in this fallen world....

Our doting grandma

This is the best photograph that i have taken during the first day of CNY. Val and Tim with with their paternal grandma ... i have a photo of them, ten years back, also taken in CNY.... when grandma was strong and energetic.

i thank God for her, for she dotes us so much even though i am no longer her daughter-in-law. Visiting her at this kind of occasion is always a struggle for me. But i know she wants to see my kids... i have told my children we will continue to attend this kind of gatherings, until one day..... we know it is not approporiate to do so....

When i think of this...my tears roll uncontrollably.....

Daunting weekend....

Saturday medical check up left me daunting over the weekend. The report review showed that i have a heart problem. In the midst of seeking second opinion this week, alot of questions surface and i start pondering.....

The first thing in my head was i dont want to die... i have my kids to raise, my dogs depend on me.... I have not found someone who love me and willing to be a partner for the rest of life.... i have not met my maple friends... my good buddies that play the game together.... i have not care enough for my mum..... there are many things i have not done and they are many more questons..... but all without answers.....

Happy Birthday, Jesus

As usual, we have our Christmas gathering yesterday. All my sisters are not believers, but they do enjoy Christmas very much. It is a time of spending the day together, with food - of course, and catching up with one another on the majong table. As for all my nieces and nephews, they look forward to have their Christmas presents from all the aunties... All of them love Christmas, and i hope one day they know that a precious gift waiting for them - thats our Jesus, a King is born in a humble status who identifies Himself with us......

For me, i still cannot thank God enough for His provision all this while... Looking at my older newphews helping me to mount the newly bought dryer onto the wall, i prayed and thank God again for them. Help is always there for me when i needed it.
God has been faithful and i must learn to trust HIM even more......

Happy Birthday, Jesus
I am so glad its Christmas,
All the tinsel and lights
The presents are nice,
But the real gift is You...

Dear Jesus, You are the ever best gift i have received in my life.....

Finally, prayered answered

Finally, the day has come. The years of tormenting, tears and hope can come to a closure with this slippage.....

My prayers is answered eventually, but with disappointment.... However, i was relief in some ways.... Its like its time to let it go, totally..... no more hope, no more tears.... put it all down and continue my lonely journey.